Ladies' Lament solution
by Kegler

As indicated by 19A 30A, A GOOD MAN IS HARD TO FIND, 27 answers drop a man's name before entry.

Ladies' Lament solution grid

Across
1TI + ELINES (rev)
6VIOLATED (EVIL TOAD anag)
10ESOTERIC (COTERIES anag)
12C(AD)AVER
13REB + A
14TO + L + D
15COST + UM + E
16R(AIL + W)AY
18BUDGE + T
19A GOOD MAN IS
22AN + D
23DOT + I'M + E
24INSTAL (STALIN anag)
26B + ENICE (NIECE anag)
28SLEEVELESS (ELSE VESSEL anag)
30HARD TO FIND
32BOLE ("BOWL" hom)
33L + UKE + WAR + M
35VEGA (GAVE anag)
36A + RM
38BAND + I + T
41A(U)ROUSe
42SESAME (hidden)
43SILENT (LISTEN anag)
44PRO(VIN)CESs
45CAR(PET)ED
Down
1TEABERRY (BEER TRY A anag)
2NO BIG DEAL (IDOL BEGAN anag)
3SCAR + LET
4B(ROAD)EST
5LI(N)E + ALLY
7FRANKlIN + CENSE (SCENE anag)
8L + AMPS
9ARE + A (rev)
11SElAWARD
12COT + TO(N)Y
17WOO + D(CH)UCK
18GANEF (hidden)
19ANCHORS (CRASH ON anag)
20MIL(OR)D
21MA(RV)ELS (MALES anag)
22CUR + TAIL
25T(V)NEW + S (WENT rev)
27E + REBUS
29EDGIER (RIDE E.G. anag)
31DAR(K,E)NED
32BANJOES (SANE JOB anag)
33W + ARP (RAP anag)
34MISSALS ("MISSILES" hom)
37MATR + ON (TRAM anag)
39NOR (1st letters)
40GENETIC (GET NICE anag)