Affirmative Action solution
by Kegler

The first letters of the extra words (shown in brackets) pose the question “Isn't it shocking how you might become a yes-man?”  The answer, from 1 and 35 Across: YOU JUST NEVER “NO”!

Affirmative Action solution grid

Across
1YOU JUST
6A + S + PIC [includes]
9LE + O + PARD [stalks]
10OR + CA [native]
12LIMNS ("LIMBS" hom) [torsos]
15A-I + DA [introduces]
16INERTLY (LINE TRY anag) [tracing]
17SIN + US [subordinate]
19USE (SUE anag) [her]
20[ANT/part]ICIPATION [observantly]
22REALIZATIONS (RATIONALIZES anag) [controversial]
24FE + W [keep]
26UNP + E.G. (PUN anag) [innocuously]
28BAUXITE ("BALK SITE" hom) [near]
30RAN + I [grotesque]
31C,Y + STS [having]
32ATOP (hidden) [one]
33CO(CKPI)T (PICK anag) [worker's]
34NORTH (THORN anag) [yields]
35NEVER NO
Down
1YE + LPS [over]
2OLIO (rev hidden) [unusual]
3J + ON + QUILt [marring]
4SANITIZATION (A ZINNIA TO ITS anag) [ill-fated]
5TRAN(SPARE + N)CE [grasping]
6ADIEU (hidden) [handsome]
7P + RATE [teenagers']
8CAN(YON)S [beautiful]
11CALm + ZONE [extolling]
13MINT (1st letters) [chocolate]
14SO + S [occurs]
18IN + EX ACT [measurement]
20ARABIAN (IN A BAR A anag) [excitable]
21TIN[T]YPEt (move the final T) [actor's]
23OPTS (POST anag) [youngster]
24F + jUROR [earsplitting]
25W + IN + CH [saintly]
26US + C [medical]
27GUST + O [ardent]
29AT + TN [needed]